independence



independenceI have been thinking a lot about how others impact the decisions I am making in my everyday.

It is easy to see this struggle in little children. You know the age old scenario when a child says ‘It wasn’t me, they made me do it’.

A blame dance begins as we start to grapple with fitting in, peer pressure and wanting to be liked by another. Our fear of rejection is often based in a place of ‘not wanting to be different from others’ and desperate for belonging.

We are different though. The basis of this fear and threat in all of us, is based in a lie.

We will never be the same as anyone. There is no one on this earth that has the same finger print as us, there is no one who has the same DNA as us.

I have watched this so intimately every day of my life, as I watch my mum, an identical twin grapple with who she is independently of her sister, who in every way looks and speaks and acts just like her.

Independence is not an easy topic because all we want to do is be accepted and have friends. Co-dependence is developed so easily because all of us want to be loved.

Yet we were designed by a Creator who made us unique and gave us free will.

You are not the sum of your friends lives. You are not successful because of how many people call you a friend on facebook.

You are unique and beautifully designed by a Creator that desires a unique interaction with you alone.

We as women need to confront the codependence we have on others and their approval and live the life that you were designed to.

You alone.

The beauty of your unique personality.

You are a gift to this world.


About Amanda

Amanda Viviers is an Author, Speaker, Creative Ninja, Novice wife and Mum. The author of four books and she can be found most days at her shack close to the beach writing her fifth. She is a presenter on radio across New Zealand and Australia and is the co-founder of Kinwomen; a network that advocates for women globally. From a corporate leadership setting, she unexpectedly found herself at 36 married and a new Mum. From this season of change, her innovative communication style is full of stories about flexibility, strength, self-care and re-establishing your identity in the changing seasons of life. She lives a creative life, helping women find their voice and her greatest joy is to help people live inspired.