I was 18 when I met this guy. Oh, he was so full of spunk.
I was intrigued by his mystery and adventure. Attracted to both his rebellion and his kindness.
It was 2006, we were driving down a gravel road when he pulled over and opened my door – “I can’t wait anymore, please be my girlfriend”. ha! Still makes me laugh.
I did nothing to fall in love with this guy. That happened all on its own.
In the words of anonymous – “Falling in love is both passive and spontaneous”
But he goes on…
“Sustaining love is not passive nor spontaneous. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort and energy. It demands wisdom. The key to succeeding is not solely reliant on finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found”.
A decade on and some days I’m acutely aware of how different he is from me.
His rebellion not so cute. ha!
That difference that made me fall in love, on days can drive me crazy!
I wonder if so much difference is normal and if we will be ok with that forever.
But most days I embrace it. Because love takes time, it takes effort and energy.
So I drink the flat white, he has the xx chocolate frappe.
I read the paper and he watches espn sport.
We laugh loud and kiss long. And it’s all kinds of wonderful.
Reinventing your marriage is sometimes just about perspective.
Forever learning to love the person I found x