Schedule it in 6

DeeLosing someone close to you comes with a whole heap of mixed questions and emotions. Basically feelings of ‘it’s not fair’. It’s been a hard six months since my brother passed away from leukemia.

What I have found that has helped me get through each day as a sane Mumma is having my kids around me. Homeschooling them has been such a blessing to me in ways I wasn’t expecting. I know myself well. If I was to send them out to school every day I would have spent most of my hours under my covers, tucked up in bed watching movies while eating not so good comfort food and not dealing with my emotions. You just can’t do that with your kids around, watching your every reaction and how you deal with life. Having them around me has sort of forced me to think about my reactions and made me a stronger person. I’ve HAD to face fears, I’ve HAD to be the adult, I’ve HAD to answer some pretty tough questions, which has been awesome to be able to do so at home with no time restrictions. We have definitely created a stronger bond with each other.

Our day-to-day pace has slowed right down. My aim was to take busy out of our life and become more productive with our learning, our time and relationships. I’m really enjoying seeing their individual personalities grow. There are days where we have a good cry together and really get to the heart of the issue. And there are days where we are in stitches of laughter. I cherish these moments with my little people. Purposefully taking time out to laugh may sound a little strange to some but this is something I even try to schedule into our day because I know how healing it can be.

With my seven year old it’s a constant reminder not to laugh AT each other or at inappropriate things but to find that inner joy of shared laughter. Teaching them about resilience, laughing at our own mistakes without becoming frustrated and angry. With Mr 7 it’s a daily reminder. He has the tendency to get angry and frustrated very quickly, much like myself. At the moment I’m training him to scream into his pillow until he starts laughing. It’s a work in progress!

Your ability to laugh can be cultivated with practice so start by prioritising fun. Find occasion to be silly. Remember laughter, like smiling, is never depleted when you share it. Tamara Lechner

So yeah, we actually schedule in FUN into our Homeschool. I’ve learned too that happiness is a personal choice. There will be times of anger and sadness and that’s okay. Scheduling ‘happy’ into our daily adventures has been the most healing medicine for all of us.

Remember happiness is the journey, not the destination.

Keep smiling, Dee

About Dee Beets

Dee grew up in the beautiful tourist town of Kiama NSW, with the beach on one side and rolling hills on the other. At the age of eleven, with her family, she moved across to the sunny state of Western Australia, where she later met her man and married him. Deanna is into her second year of Homeschooling her 2 primary aged children. Scary and rewarding at the same time, she is looking forward to going against the grain, doing life a little differently and finding joy in learning through nurturing. In her spare time she experiments with clean eats and recharges with gym workouts.

6 thoughts on “Schedule it in

  • Rosemary Swadling

    Deanna, I love the person you’ve become. But I’ve also always loved the person you were even in the tough times of growing up.
    You are one in a milion and would be lost without you. You brighten my days when I think of you and even though we are not able to spend every day together as mother and daughter, you make me proud of the way you mother your children.and how committed you are to the best son-in-law in the world, JD, and to your beliefs in your christian faith. I know that before Joel died, any differences you had, melted away and just left love. He is forever in our hearts and with our loving God, and we’ll see him again one day.
    You are very different from me in personality, but maybe that’s why we get along so well. It will be great to spend a bit more time together this coming week. Love you, mum xx

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