‘That life lesson has its limitations’

kelleyIf there is one thing that parents (okay, maybe mothers) thrive on, it is the opportunity to deliver life lessons to unsuspecting family members of the younger generation.

Yes, you know exactly what I’m talking about; something happens, good or bad or otherwise, and we are ready to bring that analogy to life in a way that makes Robin Hood look like an amateur. My boys understand the procedure: stand still, don’t make a noise, agree (silently nodding) and finish with a smile that confirms you have heard, understood and cannot wait for the next opportunity to put it into practice.

The frustrations are compounding: they don’t remember the lesson, you repeat the teaching with the next incident, they still don’t get it or can’t manage the application, as they grow older they start to roll their eyes and snicker, then find every opportunity to avoid your teaching moments…the final blow is when they experience the lesson as an adult and wonder why you never told them this fundamental truth that they now will be sure to pass on to their children.

It is true.

You can’t put an old head on young shoulders. You can only put a wiser head on young shoulders. So pick your times (please apply this approach sparingly), invest your wisdom but then be prepared to wait for experience, revelation and others to water the seed of what you have lovingly planted.

About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.