My friend was taken from her parents and grew up on a mission.
One day her son came home from University enraged; he had learnt about the stolen generation. He was furious and ready to take on her fight. She stopped him, looked at him and said ‘my fight is not your fight; my trauma is not your trauma. It is mine, not yours’.
She said to me, ‘Karina, that was a part of my life but it does not define my life and I will not let my kids carry that’.
Often hurt and unforgiveness can define us without us even knowing it. What is more heartbreaking is that despite our best intentions, when we don’t deal with unforgiveness we can pass that on to our children.
The words we say. The attitudes we hold. The behaviour we act out.
With the hope to start our own family sometime soon my husband and I decided to do life-coaching sessions.
We wanted to make sure that we wouldn’t take the hurt that we both experienced in our childhoods into our family. We are committed to not letting that define us, nor our children.
If I’m honest, there were people I had to call, uncomfortable conversations that had to be had. It wasn’t about getting an apology it was about acknowledging and letting go.
I decided that I am more committed to my future than I am to my past.
Are there any uncomfortable conversations that you’ve been putting off?
Your future will thank you