“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it. ”
C. JoyBell C.
You know the ones that can haunt us, limit us and define us. The ones that tell us we are less than others. The ones we try to hide for fear that we will be discovered as an impostor.
In fact, it is such a prevalent way of thinking that it has its own name – Impostor Syndrome. It is a concept describing individuals striving to appreciate their own accomplishments and instead living in fear of being exposed as a fraud.
I remember feeling like this in a relationship in my teens. I had a boyfriend who thought I was wonderful. Maybe a bit too wonderful I thought. And rather than reassure me, it made me anxious that one day he would discover I wasn’t the superwoman he had imagined.
This kind of thinking is understandable when we are young. But as we grow older and grow up, we need to recognize that the bar is not being set by others. It is internal. I am not an impostor, I’m just a girl having a go and discovering both my brilliance and my brokenness along the way.
We are kinwomen
You are our kin