Looking up in the waiting 1



I want to get better at looking up. Looking for help. Waiting for advice and guidance and peace. Because my default is to try and sort life out. Every part of it.

I think it’s a human aversion to living in the in-between – in the shadows – and a desire to avoid suffering.

I remember significant health concerns when pregnant with one of my sons. Tests needed to be completed over an extended time period and we were told it would take weeks for the results to be returned. But, during that time, I wanted answers. I wanted affirmation. I want assurance.

And right up to the end, none were forthcoming and all I could do was look up.

I was required to either make friends with the waiting or endure a punishment that would leave me wretched.  

And through this experience – and many more – I continue to learn and understand the importance of practicing my conviction that faith and hope are often cultivated in the in-between. When we agree to look up and wait.


About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.

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  • Ann Hedison

    Thank you Kelly.
    So needed to read this today.
    Hoping, praying and waiting to see my Grandaughter be willing to receive treatment and help necessary to recover from anorexia. Our God is good and His ways and timing are perfect. But that space in the middle where we can’t see the outcome is a very hard valley to walk through.
    Thank you and God bless you all at Kin Women for sharing your insights with us.
    Ann