Lynley is my dearest friend and the wisest 20-something I know. So I asked her to be a guest of Kin and write on wisdom this month. This is what she had to say…
Ever find that people love the idea of wisdom but sometimes don’t like how it’s looks? Sometimes we make a decision in wisdom and find that we experience the criticism and discouragement of those around us. People resist our actions or dismiss our words, question our judgement and motivations. Why?
The truth is that while wisdom is honourable in nature, it is not always popular or agreeable in application. The reason for this is that often people lack the understanding & insight that motivates wisdom and therefore perceive it as a negative. For example wisdom may compel you to set personal boundaries that might conflict with the plans, intentions & conveniences of others- consequently, inconvenience & disruption is what they see. We might do this by ending a close working relationship with someone of the opposite sex in an act of heeding wisdoms reminder to guard our heart and actions against compromise. Another example might simply be our decision to say no to the requests, invitations & demands of others- as an act of prioritising (in our personal & working lives) that which is of greatest importance and who and what really needs our attention.
The reality is, the wisdom of our lives can for others be quite frustrating, or even seem nonsensical, but if we want to lead lives that are effective and purposeful we must learn to exercise wisdom in spite of that.
So when you find it hard to act wisely without the approval of others, just remember, they may simply lack the understanding and insight compelling you to make those decisions. Don’t be concerned; let the result of wisdom reveal its own value.
Finally, continue to pursue and grow wisdom in every area of your life for its benefits are many and great. I love how this proverb puts it simply ‘Grow a wise heart—you’ll do yourself a favour; keep a clear head—you’ll find a good life.’